| During my own wedding speech as groom, I mentioned | | | | Step Four: You now experience this from the |
| that I felt it was my own parents fault that I had not | | | | grandparent's point of view. |
| gotten married until I was in my early 30s. They had | | | | Step into the shoes of your grandparent. That is, really |
| been married for 40 years and my grandparents had | | | | be them for a few moments, shift your perceptual |
| been married for over 60 years when they passed | | | | position and be them. Truly being your grandparent, |
| away... Two sets of people that were very influential in | | | | receive the resources, or the emotion or the symbolic |
| my life that offered a template of how marriage and | | | | message. Receive what was given. |
| relationships were supposed to be. | | | | Imagine experiencing this blessing, feel the resources or |
| I felt that all the relationships I found myself in were | | | | emotion and spread them through the body. hear the |
| somehow lacking and in the years prior to meeting my | | | | statement that accompanied it and let it become part |
| wife, I really thought I was going to be eternally single. I | | | | of how and who you are. Revel and bask in it and |
| actually got comfortable with that notion... So I felt that | | | | enjoy it. |
| my perception of what a relationship is was actually | | | | Step Five: You now give the same resources or |
| hindering my ability to be in a successful relationship. I | | | | emotion to your parent as the grandparent. |
| saw it all as some kind of curse even. | | | | Holding these resources and/or gift in your heart, still |
| Yet today, I see it as a true blessing. I derived a huge | | | | being the grandparent, now move up along the time |
| amount of wisdom about relationships and love from | | | | line, move into the future of your life as the |
| those important people in my life. It helped me to make | | | | grandparent and move to the point of the birth and |
| some brilliant and beneficial decisions for myself. | | | | infancy of your parent (your grandparent's child). |
| Upon hearing my wedding speech, a great friend of | | | | In your grandparent's shoes, being them, pass on the |
| mine told me how he wished he had the same kind of | | | | resource, the blessing, symbol or whatever else it was. |
| role models. His grandparents had passed away when | | | | Really enjoy the sense of giving. bestowing that |
| he was very young and his parents divorced at a | | | | wonderful thing upon your child. When you are sure |
| very young age... It was quite a conundrum to him. He | | | | you have given it fully, then move on to the next step. |
| felt like he had missed out. | | | | Step Six: Then as we did similarly and previously, you |
| This technique and process is one whereby I show | | | | now experience this from the parent's position. |
| you how you can get all the wisdom, resource, | | | | Step into the shoes of your parent. Immerse yourself |
| influence and love from the generations that went | | | | in them. See through those eyes, hear through those |
| before you. Follow this process. | | | | ears, feel as if you are them. |
| Step One: In a place where you are going to remain | | | | Imagine being held by the grandparent, feel what that is |
| undisturbed for a period of time, get yourself into a | | | | like. Then feel how you receive that resource, that |
| receptive state of mind. Ideally a state of self-hypnosis, | | | | emotion or gift. Receive it, spread it throughout you and |
| just get relaxed and allow your awareness to move | | | | within you, bask in it, revel in it and thoroughly get a |
| inside of yourself. Ideally, do large sections, if not all, of | | | | sense of how it is being given as you receive it with |
| these steps with your eyes closed to truly engage | | | | love and affection. |
| your imagination. | | | | Only when you are sure that you have received that, |
| Imagine in front of you, three lines of time. These are | | | | move on to the next step. |
| three timelines that represent three different people's | | | | Step Seven: Finally then, you now give them to |
| lives. Lines of time with all the information of all the | | | | yourself as the parent. |
| events, circumstances and situations that occurred for | | | | Hold these resources in your heart. |
| that person, mapped out along that line of time. One | | | | Now begin to float forward through your parent's |
| direction is the distant past, moving towards the | | | | timeline through your own birth and infancy. While truly |
| present and can span into the future. | | | | being in the shoes of your parent, with your parents |
| One timeline is for you and your life. | | | | perceptual position, pass on the wisdom, the love, the |
| One timeline represents either of your parents. | | | | statement, the resource or the emotion. |
| One timeline represents either of your grandparents | | | | Feel the connection as you give it and only when you |
| (the parents of that chose parent). | | | | feel you have truly given this with a beautiful intention, |
| With those three timelines in mind and ensuring you are | | | | then move on. |
| feeling receptive, move on to the next step. | | | | Step Eight: Experience this from your position as a |
| Step Two: So now we want to decide upon and | | | | baby. |
| create the resources that you are to gain from this | | | | Move back into your own timeline, into your past |
| process. | | | | where you are a baby. |
| Being in a neutral position, as if you were a fly on the | | | | Imagine being held, loved and nurtured by your parent, |
| wall or a neutral observer, have an awareness of your | | | | receiving the gift, resource, metaphor, or whatever |
| family system, feel part of a larger system that is your | | | | else it is. Receive that, let it work its way into you, |
| family and its two previous generations. just take it in | | | | spreading through you, being taken on board truly and |
| like you would a beautiful landscape or sea view | | | | totally. |
| before you. | | | | Again, only when you are sure that this has been |
| Think of resources or gifts that would benefit the | | | | received and embraced in full, move on to the next |
| family in the form of an emotion, a strength or a | | | | step. |
| resource of some kind. Think of some kind of | | | | Step Nine: You now return to the present day with this |
| statement that sums up that emotion or resource. Just | | | | emotion, gift, wisdom, resource etc. |
| say in your mind a real statement of what you believe | | | | As you continue ahead in your timeline, as you |
| is the emotion that is missing the most, or the resource | | | | progress through the time of your life, imagine that |
| that would benefit everyone here the most. | | | | each event, situation and circumstance of your entire |
| With that in mind, move on to step three. | | | | life is now being affect by you having had this |
| Step Three: You give the resources to your | | | | resource, emotion or gift. |
| grandparent. | | | | Notice how your life changes as you carry them |
| Imagine that, borne out of the wisdom and gratitude | | | | through it. |
| from the future, borne out of the wisdom of all the | | | | Imagine that the resources and nurturance add new |
| minds of you three people, that you now float back | | | | memories and qualities to your life experience. So |
| over your timeline to the birth and early childhood of | | | | that as you enter the present day, you continue to |
| your grandparent. | | | | have these gifts, knowing that they were passed |
| Imagine holding and touching your grandparent as an | | | | down to you through countless generations. |
| infant. Some people like to get spiritual, others might | | | | Step Ten: Open your eyes and connect with your |
| imagine some ethereal gentleness of a higher | | | | surroundings again. Make a commitment in the coming |
| presence, others may just wish to be practical and | | | | days that you are going to look for evidence that |
| offer up the resources symbolically. | | | | shows how you are benefiting from these |
| Offer your statement, give the resources, transfer the | | | | resources and emotions and qualities. Notice how |
| emotion... In whatever way you feel is best, just deliver | | | | things are different now. |
| what you feel is needed to the infant version of your | | | | Practice this process with different resources, gifts |
| grandparent. Once you are sure you have given them | | | | and emotions, you'll be delighted you did. |
| that, then move on. | | | | |